5 Things I Would Tell My Younger Self
Hello Family. I hope March is going well for you and that you are hammering those goals and dreams. As you know, I like to spend time reflecting on the good and the bad things of this journey called life. I belive that it helps you in your current state of mind and also keeps you on track for what’s ahead and gives you direction for your future. Today, I want to share 5 things that I would tell my younger self today. Of course if I had a time machine I would just go back and make those changes but unfortunately that cannot be done at this time so this would have to do.
I remember when my 30th birthday was approaching and I was feeling overwhelmed with anxiety because I felt like I had not accomplished enough. I believe this feeling came up because I was comparing myself to other people and social media. I remember talking to my tribe and telling them what I was feeling and to sum it up they all told me to RELAX. You are doing just fine where you are. Actually, you are doing much better than most. I remember closing on my house before my 30th birthday which was a huge accomplishment, but I felt like this should have been house #2. Three years later, I got over that anxiety quick and started relaxing more and taking in the wins and lows and just going with the flow.
2. You don’t need to know the outcome
Man, I would tell myself this in heartbeat. I can remember so many missed opportunities because I would overthink everything and if it didn’t add up, I would drop out. If I couldn’t see the finish line being attainable, I most definitely wouldn’t try. I developed this trait at a very age and only about 5 years ago I finally learned when to turn it on and turn it off. There are cases and places where the overthinker would need to be in the room. I’ve learned by being a overthinker, I am able to give different point of views or different perspectives about one situation via different angles. A lot of us can’t do that because sometimes were coming from a emotional state and we base everything on how we only feel but I’ve learned over the years to just step out on faith. Excercise faith and use it.
3. You don’t have to wait for anybody
Growing up, I always felt like the odd ball in my family. There were things I wanted to do when nobody else was doing. I wanted to learn golf while everybody was playing basketball and football. I was more focused on what people would say about it. Would they say it wasn’t a real sport? So because I didn’t see many people doing it or it not being popular in my family I didn’t do it. I now know that doing those things is what makes me uniquely me.
4. Leave the Nest
I remember when I first went off to college, I became homesick. I was only 2 hours away from home but It felt like many miles away. If I could do it all over again I would most definitely went away to another state. I also remember once I got my car in college, I started going home less. It got easier to stay away. I would visit my mom but I would be ready to go back home. I believe I had gained a sense of independance that I could actually take care of myself. I think the sooner you do this the quicker you can face life’s challenges and get a head start.
5. Love Me
When I tell you comparison kills, I should be wearing the T-shirt that says it. I can remember not loving me for all of my quirkiness. I developed a huge love for tech in my younger years. While kids were asking for playstations and nintendo, I was asking for a palm pilot. I could take a computer apart and put it back together when I was just 10 years old. I also shyed behind this and acting like I didn’t know much just to fit in with other kids but I most definitely would tell myself to LOVE ME because I honestly now Love every part of the man I’ve became and that I still am becoming.
I want you to take time a reflect. What would you tell your younger self. about life?