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What did 30 Teach Me? My Year Review

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So it’s that time again already. I can’t believe that my birthday is in 2 days and I’ll be 31. Seems like 6 months ago I was dreading of turning 30. At the time it seemed like some huge shoes to fill. I was thinking that I should had been further along. You know you start out with plans for your life and then life actually starts to take its place and before you know it, you’re turning 30.

Year 30 was amazing for me. I learned a lot about myself, character, and my calling/ destiny. You know sometimes you can spend a portion of your life working a job or in a certain area, and you think that’s what you’re suppose to be doing and you begin to just settle there for a while. In the back of your head you tell yourself, I’m going back to school next year, and the next year turns into 2, 3 and 5. I just want to share some things that I’ve learned over the last year that stretched me and got me to a better place.

1. I have the Power to change my situation

Year 30 truly gave me some super powers. In my 20s I would always find myself feeling stuck. Feeling stuck on a job or working on a project that I know I didn’t want to be doing because it wasn’t doing it for me. Man… When 30 hit, I gained a new perspective for being ok to admit that this isn’t what i want and now I need to make a change. The first step to this process is actually admitting where you went wrong or what wrong decision you chose lead you down this path. Be ok with saying this isn’t working, then change it. It’s a loaded one but it’s just that simple do a 180.

2. Let “Yes” and “No” become your Portion 🙌🏾

Let me tell you how over the last year this has blessed me and kept me from putting myself in places I really didn’t want to be in or in conversations I wasn’t interested in. Over the past year, I’ve said more No’s then yes. Like I said earlier I figured out what I wanted and where I’m headed and I had to understand that everything someone brings to you isn’t always good for you. Even if it involves your gift, talent, or niche. When I agreed and said yes, My entire being jumped on board to deliver and get the job done. There’s been so many times I’ve said Yes to something that I didn’t want to do but instead of hurting someone’s feelings with a simple clean cut “no” I would say yes, but and then who ends up in their feelings at the end of the day, Me.

3. Protect your Peace

Family, at all cost protect your peace. My mom would always remind me that you have one life so do your best to keep it while you’re alive. This past year, 30 has taught me to be able to put the phone down. Place it on DND. Get to figure out who Brandon is. Get rid of the extra added on stress that you put on yourself. So yes, there’s been unanswered calls, text messages, and emails left until I had time to get to them. I stayed away from drama that didn’t involve me and even the stuff that did involve me, I gave my regards and if that didn’t help it, I left it there. I learned how to not get overwhelmed with everybody’s cares and to make sure that Brandon was healthy. I can’t be sick trying to get you well or help you. Broken people cannot help broken people.

4. Make a decision and stand on it, even if it goes south. Ultimately make a decision.

This one was big for me. For some reason when 30 kicked in it gave me a new level of authority. As apart of my yes and no, I made the decision and stood on it. Even if I backfired. I used to be a person that always was in the middle of things. Maybe this, maybe that. Instead of a yes, or no. This past year has taught me to be ok with making mistakes. BUT make a decision. That’s the only way you’ll get to see if there will be a mistake or success.

5. Life is too short, apologize and keep it moving

With Covid-19 shifting our nation and everyday life. The last thing we need is a grudge that could have been broken with a simple sorry. I’ve learned during this season to be more sympathetic to people and just simply love on them. God is love. Life is too short, it’s just a vapor. I’ve been able to gain back rightful places of friendships with an apology because I realized that I’m not perfect, and never will be. Although, some relationships are still a work in place, I dare not let it make me stagnant from moving forward.

6. I am blessed beyond measure

Mannnn when I tell you how God has blessed me and kept me over this past year. He allowed me to continue working without missing a meal, or a mortgage payment. I truly thank God for blessing me and being my ultimate resource. I also thank him for the gift he’s put in me to give him glory. As a matter of fact if you’re reading this, I want you to take a moment and to thank God for blessing you with his breath of Life.

Why do you do it? 🤔

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Hey Everyone… Happy New Year and welcome to 2020. I pray that the year has started fresh for you and that you have new insight and the motivation for reaching and attaining your goals. So what you didn’t get a chance to do it in 2019 get up off the ground and get back on that bike and make it happen!

Today I have just a tidbit about motive. Motive can be defined as someone’s reasoning for doing something and there’s also two sides to this spectrum. The motive can be hidden and sometimes plain obvious. I want to prune and ask the world’s famous question WHY? Why are you doing it? I want to refocus our heart and minds of Why we do a certain thing. I believe that this is the building block of our success. Are we doing this for recognition, wealth, out of jealousy, or just because we like what the other person is doing. Businesses are created because there was a problem and based on that problem they are the solution. Plumbers are in business to come and fix a leaking pipe or a tub that won’t drain. They are available to fix the problem. So we can conclude that a businesses “why” is based on providing services for their consumer needs.

So now I question your “why”? Often times we find ourselves (me included) doing something that we started out thinking was cool or trendy then we stop because maybe it didn’t give us the success we wanted or didn’t give us our big break. Your why should be based on a solid variable.

Having a pure motive will always win. In today’s time we need more honest and genuine clean motives behind our dwellings, because if their not true or tainted, they will show up eventually. Connect your motive with your passion. If your ultimate passion is to put a smile on someone’s face then motive or motivation for doing so won’t change because your goal is to make people feel happy.

As you go through your day today, take a quick inventory of what you are apart of and ask yourself why do I do this?

Blessings

Brandon B

Blessings from a God that Can do the Impossible

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Hello Family!

I pray that everyone is living their best lives and that your holiday was filled with joy, peace and love. I pray that this message will be blessing to you and enrich you on your journey of life.

I have been reading and in prayer about some things. Can I vent? I’ve been in panic mode.  Worrying about some finances, family and business. Yesterday, I was lead to read Psalms 91 and God simply says give me a chance. You’re not suppose to be worried about this or that. Rest in me, and even when stuff come up, I won’t let it touch you, you’ll be able to keep going. Mannnnn I’ve read this passage so many times but yesterday I really needed to hear that. I was like the kid who fell down off his bike and scraped his knee and cries and run to mom and dad, only for them to say hey, it’s going to be ok, you’ll be fine. I posted a quote today that I written in my phone and it simply says. Stop worrying so much that you give no room for your Faith to attach to God’s Promise. Let me break that down. If you stay focus on your dilemmas and situations, you will never be able to reach for God because you will be too focused on trying to come up with a solution or the ultimate solution. I joke with a friend on occasion about this phrase he uses and encourages “Take Rest” and honestly we must Take Rest. Take rest in knowing that God is going to work it out for us. Take rest that you can stop worrying. It’s a process, and you will totally have to flex that faith muscle to get the ball moving on those faith biceps. Trust me it’s a journey but God will not put more on you than you can bare.

Also, if you are like me looking and waiting for a blessing from God please make sure that you stay open. Be open to the limitless possibilities of God and stop thinking that there is only one way for God’s blessings to come through. The reason why some of our blessings haven’t come through yet is because we’re not open to them. God may want to use the co worker to bless you who you don’t speak to in the morning. God may want to use that annoying friend who looks up to you and who calls you all the time to bless you. God uses people! In the bible he says that the riches of the sinner is laid up for the just but how do you get to them if you are closed off? The world is so much bigger than your city, your church, your job and even your own family. There are people from all walks of life looking for your ministry, your business, your intellect and they are ready to invest and be a blessing to you. Don’t get caught up with people looking different from you. We are all God’s children and we are his creation. We sing and preach about God being a miracle worker but we diminish the light on God’s power when we think that the blessing can only come from a promotion on a job or a raise. When we begin to take the limits off of God (take your hands off the steering wheel please) and REST in him, then the blessings will flow. Most of us are already blessed and don’t even know it. If you’re able to make choices, count yourself blessed. If you can go to your closet and stand there for 10 minutes picking out something to wear for one day, You’re blessed. The homeless family may only have that one shirt to wear. We are a blessed people. Remember to be open. Remember God’s blessings and miracles are unordinary and breaks scientific research (the virgin Mary). So stop looking for them to be how you think they should look and be open for him to bless you.

 

For with God Nothing shall be impossible

Luke 1:37

I love You

God Bless