What did 30 Teach Me? My Year Review

So it’s that time again already. I can’t believe that my birthday is in 2 days and I’ll be 31. Seems like 6 months ago I was dreading of turning 30. At the time it seemed like some huge shoes to fill. I was thinking that I should had been further along. You know you start out with plans for your life and then life actually starts to take its place and before you know it, you’re turning 30.

Year 30 was amazing for me. I learned a lot about myself, character, and my calling/ destiny. You know sometimes you can spend a portion of your life working a job or in a certain area, and you think that’s what you’re suppose to be doing and you begin to just settle there for a while. In the back of your head you tell yourself, I’m going back to school next year, and the next year turns into 2, 3 and 5. I just want to share some things that I’ve learned over the last year that stretched me and got me to a better place.

1. I have the Power to change my situation

Year 30 truly gave me some super powers. In my 20s I would always find myself feeling stuck. Feeling stuck on a job or working on a project that I know I didn’t want to be doing because it wasn’t doing it for me. Man… When 30 hit, I gained a new perspective for being ok to admit that this isn’t what i want and now I need to make a change. The first step to this process is actually admitting where you went wrong or what wrong decision you chose lead you down this path. Be ok with saying this isn’t working, then change it. It’s a loaded one but it’s just that simple do a 180.

2. Let “Yes” and No” become your Portion 🙌🏾

Let me tell you how over the last year this has blessed me and kept me from putting myself in places I really didn’t want to be in or in conversations I wasn’t interested in. Over the past year, I’ve said more No’s then yes. Like I said earlier I figured out what I wanted and where I’m headed and I had to understand that everything someone brings to you isn’t always good for you. Even if it involves your gift, talent, or niche. When I agreed and said yes, My entire being jumped on board to deliver and get the job done. There’s been so many times I’ve said Yes to something that I didn’t want to do but instead of hurting someone’s feelings with a simple clean cut “no” I would say yes, but and then who ends up in their feelings at the end of the day, Me.

3. Protect your Peace

Family, at all cost protect your peace. My mom would always remind me that you have one life so do your best to keep it while you’re alive. This past year, 30 has taught me to be able to put the phone down. Place it on DND. Get to figure out who Brandon is. Get rid of the extra added on stress that you put on yourself. So yes, there’s been unanswered calls, text messages, and emails left until I had time to get to them. I stayed away from drama that didn’t involve me and even the stuff that did involve me, I gave my regards and if that didn’t help it, I left it there. I learned how to not get overwhelmed with everybody’s cares and to make sure that Brandon was healthy. I can’t be sick trying to get you well or help you. Broken people cannot help broken people.

4. Make a decision and stand on it, even if it goes south. Ultimately make a decision.

This one was big for me. For some reason when 30 kicked in it gave me a new level of authority. As apart of my yes and no, I made the decision and stood on it. Even if I backfired. I used to be a person that always was in the middle of things. Maybe this, maybe that. Instead of a yes, or no. This past year has taught me to be ok with making mistakes. BUT make a decision. That’s the only way you’ll get to see if there will be a mistake or success.

5. Life is too short, apologize and keep it moving

With Covid-19 shifting our nation and everyday life. The last thing we need is a grudge that could have been broken with a simple sorry. I’ve learned during this season to be more sympathetic to people and just simply love on them. God is love. Life is too short, it’s just a vapor. I’ve been able to gain back rightful places of friendships with an apology because I realized that I’m not perfect, and never will be. Although, some relationships are still a work in place, I dare not let it make me stagnant from moving forward.

6. I am blessed beyond measure

Mannnn when I tell you how God has blessed me and kept me over this past year. He allowed me to continue working without missing a meal, or a mortgage payment. I truly thank God for blessing me and being my ultimate resource. I also thank him for the gift he’s put in me to give him glory. As a matter of fact if you’re reading this, I want you to take a moment and to thank God for blessing you with his breath of Life.

3 Things you Can do to Keep the Faith through a Pandemic 💪🏾✊🏾

Good Morning Family! I pray that everyone is doing well and making it through. I Just wanted to share some Encouragement today for someone that might need some and also may need to read some fresh perspective.

I was given the task to preach a sermon a couple of months, and God downloaded a word in my spirit and the basis of the word was “perspective”. I’ve talked about this briefly. This word has really carried me through since March until now. There’s been so much going on in our world, from pandemic (Covid), killings, riots, and racial tension. Honestly, if I could be honest, I became overwhelmed and checked out a few times to get myself together. I am a man of Faith and know that there is power in prayer, and that God is a all knowing as well. He is not surprised by anything. I often picture God, sitting in his nice comfy chair watching his masterpiece movie play out, while he’s holding the stars in place inhaling and exhaling. Ya’ll let me have my Disney moment!!! But, he’s all knowing, and always present. So when you take it from this perspective you must question why am I still here? I’m alive and that means there is need for me here. If your work was finished I honestly believe that we wouldn’t be here. We all were created for a purpose and it is up to us to find that purpose on our journey called life. Now hold that thought.

I’ve titled this post “Keeping the Faith” because when storms and trials of life come, the first thing we do is lose faith on those things we are believing for or working towards, but I want to declare to you to shift your perspective. It is not over and there is still time to go back to the drawing board. I’ve seen so many people use this time wisely and shift. They shifted from doing things the so called normal way from in person meetings to making things virtual and not missing a beat. Our churches for example. I’ve seen a lot of churches get on board with their online presence and take advantage of technology the best way they could and I’ve seen some do the bare minimum because they just think it was that important and they just wanted to decide to wait until it’s Safe to go back inside the 4 walls of a building as if God didn’t know that a Pandemic would occur. I’m always reminded of the scripture that says “he who win souls is wise”. Proverbs 11:30 and with the help of technology, WiFi, and cameras The service and ministry never had to stop unless we want it too. This may have called for us to stop doing things the same old way and develop new ways of doing ministry. We must SHIFT. Shifting perspective gives you a different a view of the situation. Shifting perspective will help you keep the faith during a Pandemic. If you are only bound by what you see in front of you and are constantly magnifying what you hear from the news and your peers, You won’t get the chance to utilize faith to go against the grain. This is the most valuable time for the church. The world is seeking healing, deliverance, and salvation and if we can’t shift and bring Faith to them because were not willing to shift, then are we really spreading Faith and Hope to a dying world?

So I challenge you to shift and realign your Faith. No, I this isn’t the correct formula but I do know that God has a purpose and plan for us and if we would just have faith to follow and endure We will get through this. I want to encourage with 3 nuggets on how you can keep the Faith during these times.

1. Check your Circle and keep like minded people in your circle who want the same thing as you.

  • Get rid of the negative conversations and complainers. Yes, we all know what is going on but if we want to shift and rise above it. We must start having the conversations about solutions. If these conversations can’t be made within your circle then it might be time to shift your circle.

2. Stay prayerful and connected to people of Faith “Church”

  • We must stay built up by keeping the full armor of salvation on at all times. Do it when you don’t want to. Stay in the presence of God. It will keep you and it will keep your mind focused. Start your day with devotion (prayer and scripture) and watch how much better your day unfolds.

3. Make time for reflection and Gratitude

  • Take inventory of your many blessings and things you have to be grateful for. We often take the little things for granted. Your little thing is someone’s big thing. Be Grateful. Take time and jot down a list of things that you are grateful for. Putting these things before you will help you continue on your journey of keeping the Faith.

I pray that you all be safe and Blessed

I Don’t Have a Lot🙂 Here’s Some Quick Encouragement

Hello Family, I am BACK. I pray this finds you well and blessed. It’s been a while since I’ve written anything but I want to get back to a place of writing and speak what’s on my heart, and the only thing I have right now is a piece of encouragement.

Despite what’s going on in the world, I want to spread some joy and to remind us all to sit back and to open our hearts for gratitude. Everyday we wake up and breathe and exhale is a blessing. We are indeed a blessed people. I simply want to share these few words, Be Strong, you are more than enough and capable to get through this. Whether it’s financially, health related or struggling to find where you fit in, please be reminded that you are enough. God has equipped you with everything you need. Take time to sit back and tap into your God given gifts and talents. You may convey the gift of servitude and the gift of helps. Especially in this time we all need a helping hand whether it’s physically or just an ear.

I am praying for you and with you, I love you!

Blessings from a God that Can do the Impossible

Hello Family!

I pray that everyone is living their best lives and that your holiday was filled with joy, peace and love. I pray that this message will be blessing to you and enrich you on your journey of life.

I had been reading and in prayer about some things. Can I vent? I’ve been in panic mode.  Worrying about some finances, family and business. Yesterday, I was lead to read Psalms 91 and God simply says give me a chance. You’re not suppose to be worried about this or that. Rest in me, and even when stuff come up, I won’t let it touch you, you’ll be able to keep going. Mannnnn I’ve read this passage so many times but yesterday I really needed to hear that. I was like the kid who fell down off his bike and scraped his knee and cries and run to mom and dad, only for them to say hey, it’s going to be ok, you’ll be fine. I posted a quote today that I written in my phone and it simply says. Stop worrying so much that you give no room for your Faith to attach to God’s Promise. Let me break that down. If you stay focus on your dilemmas and situations, you will never be able to reach for God because you will be too focused on trying to come up with a solution or the ultimate solution. I joke with a friend on occasion about this phrase he uses and encourages “Take Rest” and honestly we must Take Rest. Take rest in knowing that God is going to work it out for us. Take rest that you can stop worrying. It’s a process, and you will totally have to flex that faith muscle to get the ball moving on those faith biceps. Trust me it’s a journey but God will not put more on you than you can bare.

Also, if you are like me looking and waiting for a blessing from God please make sure that you stay open. Be open to the limitless possibilities of God and stop thinking that there is only one way for God’s blessings to come through. The reason why some of our blessings haven’t come through yet is because we’re not open to them. God may want to use the co worker to bless you who you don’t speak to in the morning. God may want to use that annoying friend who looks up to you and who calls you all the time to bless you. God uses people! In the bible he says that the riches of the sinner is laid up for the just but how do you get to them if you are closed off? The world is so much bigger than your city, your church, your job and even your own family. There are people from all walks of life looking for your ministry, your business, your intellect and they are ready to invest and be a blessing to you. Don’t get caught up with people looking different from you. We are all God’s children and we are his creation. We sing and preach about God being a miracle worker but we diminish the light on God’s power when we think that the blessing can only come from a promotion on a job or a raise. When we begin to take the limits off of God (take your hands off the steering wheel please) and REST in him, then the blessings will flow. Most of us are already blessed and don’t even know it. If you’re able to make choices, count yourself blessed. If you can go to your closet and stand there for 10 minutes picking out something to wear for one day, You’re blessed. The homeless family may only have that one shirt to wear. We are a blessed people. Remember to be open. Remember God’s blessings and miracles are unordinary and breaks scientific research (the virgin Mary). So stop looking for them to be how you think they should look and be open for him to bless you.

 

For with God Nothing shall be impossible

Luke 1:37

I love You

God Bless

Know When it’s Time to Move On

Hey Family! I Pray that you are well and are gearing up for the Holidays for family time and good eating. I just wanted to share a nugget with you for this week.

As you can see from the title, you already know what I’m talking about to some degree. I just want to share some insight on this. I want to start off by saying you must never stop learning and growing unless you’re comfortable with where you are. Being comfortable can really stagnate you’re growth and hinder you from reaching your full potential. I often sit in deep thought asking myself why didn’t I do this, or why didn’t I go here? Often times the answer is me not moving. So maybe you’re not comfortable in the place you’re in. Maybe you’re too busy doing the same routine and keeping busy that you don’t recognize the need for more or progression. I call these distractions. Sometimes our friends can become distractions. We can take on their burdens and cares and get overwhelmed and over worked with their problems that we never have to time for our own. At every season in life we must take time for us and take inventory. Take inventory of your own peace, joy and happiness. If something is lacking then work on it.

Some of us have many dreams and visions that we want to embark on but were distracted doing other things that doesn’t matter to our vision. Now I’m not saying to go abort all your friends and loved ones. I’m talking about setting boundaries and balancing the scale. No friendship should be out of balance. Just as much as you help someone or pour into them, they should be able to pour into you. If the scale never balances out then it might be time to move on. In life some people are only on your train for a season until you reach their drop off spot. Ask yourself this? Am I benefiting from this situation, friendship, or relationship? If the answer isn’t yes, then it’s time to Move On!

Be Encouraged

Be Blessed!

Don’t Get Discouraged with the Current

Hello Family! I hope everyone is doing well! My bro Bryan has really been on me and pushing me to write and to organize a blog schedule, and need to say… it’s working thus far. So every Wednesday you can see a new blog post from me and you actually might begin to see more within a week 😊 Stay tuned

I just want to continue to encourage those that might be going through a season that feels like drought. What do I mean? You feel like you’re not accomplishing anything or nothing is getting done or you may feel like everything you touch falls apart or you’re just a car in park. This is what I’ve been feeling for the past 3 months. I have a few things on my plate that has to get done and those things sometimes will discourage me from really working on my dream or vision because I’m too busy working /worrying about the current.

The last 4 months for me have been kind of brutal financially. Honestly, I know myself and I know when something isn’t right. I would go to work and come home and crawl in the bed, and not get up until the next day. Here’s the kicker sometimes I would eat one meal and not eat again. Now y’all know your boy loves to eat! I was surely going through a season of drought and was overwhelmed without any navigation and couldn’t see any light through my tunnel.

I slowly begin to shift my focus and I was able to see my vision and dream ahead of my current. As much mess or drought you’re going through you must combat it with your dream. I started watching YouTube vids of others people journey and stories and I started reading books that would challenge my mind to stay focus on the future. My main issue was my thoughts. You have to find a way to calm down your mind and spirit. Many of you know I am a man of faith and I choose prayer and meditation and I must confess. I wasn’t doing my share of this during my drought. I wasn’t getting fed enough spiritually to combat what my natural intake would be. Soon after I was able to get back to the grind of building my brand and business and what’s so amazing and crazy at the same time, the stuff that had me down, some of it is still going on, but I’m able to go through it because I have my dreams before it.

I want to tell you to not give up. Please don’t give in. It’s not that bad and everyday you’re given a blank canvas to create, to publish and live. Don’t get so caught up in the bad that you neglect on the good and the good to come. I hope this nugget helps and encourages you on your journey. We got this, let’s make it happen

Use What You Got

Hey Everybody!!! It’s been a while since I’ve written, but I’m back and ready to encourage and uplift. We really need that in today’s time because one moment you might feel like you have all the motivation that you need and then in the next second of that moment you are doubting and wanting to crawl up back in bed for the day.

I would like to encourage you today and let you know that God has created you and given you everything that you need. Sounds a bit cliche right? I’m sure you’ve heard that through the church walls and pews but it really is true. Often times, I find myself buying products or chasing after this or that because I see other people successful with it. Most of the time, if you just work with the measure you’re given that measure would get the job done.

Quick Example

At the top of the year my living arrangements begin to get interrupted and I had to find a new place to live. I had a friend talk to me about home buying and he suggested I talk to a bank to see if I would get pre-approved for a home loan. NOW in a million years, buying a house was far, far, far away from my agenda and I always and always felt like I didn’t have enough money in the bank to buy a house. What’s the name of this Blog???? Use what you got!!! So literally I used what I had. I had my income, credit score, and not a whole lot of money in the bank and what happened? I got pre-approved for a home loan. It was mind blowing. Over the past few years I was working on my credit and made sure I paid everything on time but I never thought that I was preparing myself to make an investment purchase like this. So I simply used what I had already and stepped out on faith. You will never know what you can do or where you can go, until you step out and try. I never knew what programs were available to assist you buying your first home. I learned so much and it’s made me think on a higher level. In my younger years, just hearing the word mortgage would make me shut everything down because I was brainwashed into thinking that you had to have thousands, and thousands of dollars in the bank to buy and obtain an home loan.

I just want to encourage you to use what you got. It might seem small to you, but it just might be what’s required to get you into the door. You might remember the mustard seed of faith. I used to wear one around my neck in a charm, and that thing is small. It would most definitely spark and grow the more you use it, so get up and Use what you Got!!!

Be Blessed & I love you all!

Be a Good Steward Over Your Time

Hey Everyone and Happy New Year. Welcome to 2019 I pray and hope that you are staying true to your goals and aspirations and I pray that you are taking charge of your life and making things happen.

For this season of my life, I have been in silence and observing everything that I do. One of the things that I have been working on is my time. God grants us life that comes with time and this time that we have is precious. We don’t know the date or the hour of expiration for life, so with that being said lets not waste it.

Social media plays a huge part of our lives now. We use it to keep in touch with our peers and some of us use it for staying up to date on things in the world and people. I must admit, I love social media but I understand that if I don’t have a clear objective of what I need to use it for, it will began to distract me and I would waste time. You know you wake up, turn off the alarm, and then you get to scrolling and checking your notifications and messages. Before you know it an hour has passed and that hour did not put any money into your wallet or help build your business. It pretty much was just a waste. That could have been a hour of you reading something productive to start investing or you could have been building your craft. Mannnnn there’s been so many times I’ve spent times just scrolling and scrolling and got nothing and I mean nothing accomplished.

When we look at the definition of Steward it says it is to manage or look after. We must simply do that. We must manage our precious time. Ask yourself what you’re doing is this going to help me out in the long run? Is this going to add to me or is it going to be a pointless act. Now I’m not saying not to live and enjoy life. I believe that we all should dial back at sometime and do something enjoyable but I’m speaking to the people that are striving to reach their destiny and every time you try to get something done or try to accomplish something, it just doesn’t happen. That’s who I am talking to.

To start taking charge of your time. Remember this… you are in control. You control what you want to do, who you want to associate yourself with, and where you want to go. You are in control. Don’t get sucked in to believing that you don’t have a choice or someone or somebody is making you do something you don’t want to. There’s two simple words that has given me power and they are YES and NO and nothing in between.

I want to challenge you this year to dial back and observe to make sure that you aren’t wasting your time on pointless things. Make sure that you are maximizing your time and every opportunity. I will touch bases on this and maybe make it a series as we go further into this year of greatness. I believe that this year can be a breath taking year for you but it’s according to what you put it in.

Be Blessed and Thank you for Reading

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Here Comes the Purge

Hello Family! I hope everyone is making their way to family for the Thanksgiving Holiday and I hope that everyone is safe and blessed.

                                         Garbage Can

 I was working around the house the other day doing laundry and I noticed some clothes and shoes that I don’t wear anymore but still yet they were in my closet. I asked myself “why are you holding on to this”? mind you the clothes were now too small and I don’t plan on losing weight in my chest or arms (those are the good parts) but why was I still holding to them? So I started to think and to dissect this situation. Did they have any sentimental value? Nope. Were they a collectors item? Nope. So I kept going back to why do I still have it? Suddenly,  I gathered a bag and started putting all of the things together that were old and that I wasn’t going to be wearing anymore.

Shortly, I got the revelation behind this for life’s journey ahead. There are many things that we have around us that just become garbage and waste. I know for me it becomes a distraction. In this season, I have been working on “focus” and trying to stay focused on my goals and what really matters. If we don’t take the time purge the things that we don’t have need anymore, they may just end up holding us back. Some of the things might not be materials. They could be connections, relationships, friendships, the way we think, or even the way we learn. Now I’m not saying go and start befriending people because I believe that everyone needs someone and somebody but if the connection or friendship is causing you to not move forward or is toxic then purge it. As I’ve stated before in another blog, God created life to move and with moving it moves forward. God’s word stays the same and yes he is the same God but he is a God of Progression. He wants us to grow. He wants us to be better.

Purging comes and will start to happen when we begin to release. As much as we want to be superman and batman and act like we are made of steel, we all have hearts and souls. In order for us to grow and move forward, we must let some things go. Just like a growing baby can’t fit the same onesie that he wore at 2 months and now at 24 months. Some stuff has to go, and not only that… You will not have need for it anymore! So I say to you dear friends purge and get rid of the dead weight that’s holding you and keeping you from moving forward. This will only help you gain focus on what really matters.

 

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Wisdom for the Over-Thinker

So I was brainstorming some ideas of what to jot down from my next blog post and I wanted to write something that is heart filled but relatable. So begin to take inventory of what’s actually going on with me in this season, so here it goes.

Each and every year I make declarations for the year and one them was to take every opportunity that comes my way. Step out of the box and get out of the boat. I’ve noticed that my biggest hang up here is not knowing what the outcome will be. So, instead of messing something up or losing I just won’t try and would just press snooze on the opportunity. All of the voices would come and say…. I’m not good enough, try it next time, and I would simply overthink the opportunity and lose it and then be mad that I didn’t do it.

I’ve realized that this is a cycle that I have to break and the only way to break it is by doing the complete opposite of what those voices are telling you.

I remember up until 2 years ago, I never knew how to swim. When I was 11 I had an almost drowning experience and developed a fear for water. So after that 5 years, pass by then 10 and now I was a full adult and never knew how to swim. There were many opportunities that arose that would help me learn how to swim but I had just got comfortable with not knowing and never learning how to.

In 2016 a great friend of mines came to me and said we should take swimming lessons. Immediately I said ok, because I had to show her how strong I was and that I was up for the task but  instead I was so scared lol. We signed up for classes and the classes were made for adults learning to swim. It didn’t feel so bad once I started because I ended up being the youngest in the class.

If I had never stepped out of the boat of fear and grabbed the opportunity to learn how to swim I would’ve missed it. As an over thinker we must understand that everything doesn’t have to be over thought. Sometimes you just need to go with the wave. The outcome was great. I was so excited when I learned. I’m also able to put my head in the water while showering. (The fear of drowning really had me). All I’m saying is don’t let fear or doubt stop you from taking the opportunity that stands before you.

I pray and hope that you will begin to take the opportunity that is presented to you so that you can reach you destiny.

 

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