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Here Comes the Purge

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Hello Family! I hope everyone is making their way to family for the Thanksgiving Holiday and I hope that everyone is safe and blessed.

                                         Garbage Can

 I was working around the house the other day doing laundry and I noticed some clothes and shoes that I don’t wear anymore but still yet they were in my closet. I asked myself “why are you holding on to this”? mind you the clothes were now too small and I don’t plan on losing weight in my chest or arms (those are the good parts) but why was I still holding to them? So I started to think and to dissect this situation. Did they have any sentimental value? Nope. Were they a collectors item? Nope. So I kept going back to why do I still have it? Suddenly,  I gathered a bag and started putting all of the things together that were old and that I wasn’t going to be wearing anymore.

Shortly, I got the revelation behind this for life’s journey ahead. There are many things that we have around us that just become garbage and waste. I know for me it becomes a distraction. In this season, I have been working on “focus” and trying to stay focused on my goals and what really matters. If we don’t take the time purge the things that we don’t have need anymore, they may just end up holding us back. Some of the things might not be materials. They could be connections, relationships, friendships, the way we think, or even the way we learn. Now I’m not saying go and start befriending people because I believe that everyone needs someone and somebody but if the connection or friendship is causing you to not move forward or is toxic then purge it. As I’ve stated before in another blog, God created life to move and with moving it moves forward. God’s word stays the same and yes he is the same God but he is a God of Progression. He wants us to grow. He wants us to be better.

Purging comes and will start to happen when we begin to release. As much as we want to be superman and batman and act like we are made of steel, we all have hearts and souls. In order for us to grow and move forward, we must let some things go. Just like a growing baby can’t fit the same onesie that he wore at 2 months and now at 24 months. Some stuff has to go, and not only that… You will not have need for it anymore! So I say to you dear friends purge and get rid of the dead weight that’s holding you and keeping you from moving forward. This will only help you gain focus on what really matters.

 

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Wisdom for the Over-Thinker

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So I was brainstorming some ideas of what to jot down from my next blog post and I wanted to write something that is heart filled but relatable. So begin to take inventory of what’s actually going on with me in this season, so here it goes.

Each and every year I make declarations for the year and one them was to take every opportunity that comes my way. Step out of the box and get out of the boat. I’ve noticed that my biggest hang up here is not knowing what the outcome will be. So, instead of messing something up or losing I just won’t try and would just press snooze on the opportunity. All of the voices would come and say…. I’m not good enough, try it next time, and I would simply overthink the opportunity and lose it and then be mad that I didn’t do it.

I’ve realized that this is a cycle that I have to break and the only way to break it is by doing the complete opposite of what those voices are telling you.

I remember up until 2 years ago, I never knew how to swim. When I was 11 I had an almost drowning experience and developed a fear for water. So after that 5 years, pass by then 10 and now I was a full adult and never knew how to swim. There were many opportunities that arose that would help me learn how to swim but I had just got comfortable with not knowing and never learning how to.

In 2016 a great friend of mines came to me and said we should take swimming lessons. Immediately I said ok, because I had to show her how strong I was and that I was up for the task but  instead I was so scared lol. We signed up for classes and the classes were made for adults learning to swim. It didn’t feel so bad once I started because I ended up being the youngest in the class.

If I had never stepped out of the boat of fear and grabbed the opportunity to learn how to swim I would’ve missed it. As an over thinker we must understand that everything doesn’t have to be over thought. Sometimes you just need to go with the wave. The outcome was great. I was so excited when I learned. I’m also able to put my head in the water while showering. (The fear of drowning really had me). All I’m saying is don’t let fear or doubt stop you from taking the opportunity that stands before you.

I pray and hope that you will begin to take the opportunity that is presented to you so that you can reach you destiny.

 

Why you shouldn’t Live in your head? For the Over-Thinker

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I know it’s been a while since I wrote, but I’m gaining my motivation back and thanks to my brother Bryan who is always encouraging me to pull out that pen and paper or tablet and get to writing and make it happen. So here I am. I just want to share something that has been on my heart and something that I’m reevaluating.

Judging from this title, you might be asking what is this about, and what is an over thinker. An over thinker is someone who analyzes and evaluates a formula for life, a problem, or anything. It can be simple as cleaning a pair of gym shoes. The objective is to clean the shoes but as an over thinker we would weigh out all of the factors before actually cleaning the shoe. What factors exist here?… I’m glad you asked me… 

  1. What type of shoe cleaner should i use? 
  2. Should I use something that contains bleach?
  3. Should I wash my sneakers over the kitchen sink?
  4. Should I wash them over the bathroom tub?
  5. Should i toss them into the washer machine?

And so on

So we have one objective but many factors to getting them done and most of the time if we can’t figure out the equation, we will just discontinue the task at hand. Mannn this used to be me for everything but as I get older I do understand that this very skill and characteristic can also be my flaw. Sometimes you just need to do it. Everything we do in life doesn’t need to be broken down into many factors for us to get the answer or to see the end. This is why many of us won’t start nothing or won’t even finished what we have started because we’re too busy over thinking the situation. GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD.

Release It

Getting out of your head will help you to stop overthinking but how do we do this? We must actually live and learn to release. The thing we’re thinking and stressing about we must release. Release it in writing, talking it out to a friend, or standing on top of a mountain and screaming it out. 

Jump In & Do it

If it something that you’re trying to do or wanting to do but fear is stopping you and you’re sitting and contemplating  yes or no, then I encourage you to just jump in and do it. I’m speaking from experience. This is something that I have been doing for the past year in a half. I just jump in and the outcome of it has always been a blessing. It always seems to connect to something bigger and better from where I started from. 

Use your SuperPower for Good

I think Over thinker’s have a gift. Being analytical isn’t always a bad thing if it’s for the right thing. In a board meeting with a CEO, the team expects you to be analytical because we can’t just have you throwing out your 30 second idea and you haven’t figured out how it will be financed or if it would be a risk for the business. We also must be aware that everything doesn’t require our superpower. If you have questions you want to ask a friend or your spouse in a relationship but you rather sit and formulate, investigate, and send smoke signals then you living in your head is just going to dig you deeper hole than what you’re already in. Jump in… use the tool communication and save  your SuperPower for something worth it. People get paid lots of money to think and to analyze a problem. 

Thank you for reading.