Wisdom for the Over-Thinker

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So I was brainstorming some ideas of what to jot down from my next blog post and I wanted to write something that is heart filled but relatable. So begin to take inventory of what’s actually going on with me in this season, so here it goes.

Each and every year I make declarations for the year and one them was to take every opportunity that comes my way. Step out of the box and get out of the boat. I’ve noticed that my biggest hang up here is not knowing what the outcome will be. So, instead of messing something up or losing I just won’t try and would just press snooze on the opportunity. All of the voices would come and say…. I’m not good enough, try it next time, and I would simply overthink the opportunity and lose it and then be mad that I didn’t do it.

I’ve realized that this is a cycle that I have to break and the only way to break it is by doing the complete opposite of what those voices are telling you.

I remember up until 2 years ago, I never knew how to swim. When I was 11 I had an almost drowning experience and developed a fear for water. So after that 5 years, pass by then 10 and now I was a full adult and never knew how to swim. There were many opportunities that arose that would help me learn how to swim but I had just got comfortable with not knowing and never learning how to.

In 2016 a great friend of mines came to me and said we should take swimming lessons. Immediately I said ok, because I had to show her how strong I was and that I was up for the task but  instead I was so scared lol. We signed up for classes and the classes were made for adults learning to swim. It didn’t feel so bad once I started because I ended up being the youngest in the class.

If I had never stepped out of the boat of fear and grabbed the opportunity to learn how to swim I would’ve missed it. As an over thinker we must understand that everything doesn’t have to be over thought. Sometimes you just need to go with the wave. The outcome was great. I was so excited when I learned. I’m also able to put my head in the water while showering. (The fear of drowning really had me). All I’m saying is don’t let fear or doubt stop you from taking the opportunity that stands before you.

I pray and hope that you will begin to take the opportunity that is presented to you so that you can reach you destiny.

 

Why you shouldn’t Live in your head? For the Over-Thinker

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I know it’s been a while since I wrote, but I’m gaining my motivation back and thanks to my brother Bryan who is always encouraging me to pull out that pen and paper or tablet and get to writing and make it happen. So here I am. I just want to share something that has been on my heart and something that I’m reevaluating.

Judging from this title, you might be asking what is this about, and what is an over thinker. An over thinker is someone who analyzes and evaluates a formula for life, a problem, or anything. It can be simple as cleaning a pair of gym shoes. The objective is to clean the shoes but as an over thinker we would weigh out all of the factors before actually cleaning the shoe. What factors exist here?… I’m glad you asked me… 

  1. What type of shoe cleaner should i use? 
  2. Should I use something that contains bleach?
  3. Should I wash my sneakers over the kitchen sink?
  4. Should I wash them over the bathroom tub?
  5. Should i toss them into the washer machine?

And so on

So we have one objective but many factors to getting them done and most of the time if we can’t figure out the equation, we will just discontinue the task at hand. Mannn this used to be me for everything but as I get older I do understand that this very skill and characteristic can also be my flaw. Sometimes you just need to do it. Everything we do in life doesn’t need to be broken down into many factors for us to get the answer or to see the end. This is why many of us won’t start nothing or won’t even finished what we have started because we’re too busy over thinking the situation. GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD.

Release It

Getting out of your head will help you to stop overthinking but how do we do this? We must actually live and learn to release. The thing we’re thinking and stressing about we must release. Release it in writing, talking it out to a friend, or standing on top of a mountain and screaming it out. 

Jump In & Do it

If it something that you’re trying to do or wanting to do but fear is stopping you and you’re sitting and contemplating  yes or no, then I encourage you to just jump in and do it. I’m speaking from experience. This is something that I have been doing for the past year in a half. I just jump in and the outcome of it has always been a blessing. It always seems to connect to something bigger and better from where I started from. 

Use your SuperPower for Good

I think Over thinker’s have a gift. Being analytical isn’t always a bad thing if it’s for the right thing. In a board meeting with a CEO, the team expects you to be analytical because we can’t just have you throwing out your 30 second idea and you haven’t figured out how it will be financed or if it would be a risk for the business. We also must be aware that everything doesn’t require our superpower. If you have questions you want to ask a friend or your spouse in a relationship but you rather sit and formulate, investigate, and send smoke signals then you living in your head is just going to dig you deeper hole than what you’re already in. Jump in… use the tool communication and save  your SuperPower for something worth it. People get paid lots of money to think and to analyze a problem. 

Thank you for reading. 

Life: The Good the Bad the Ugly

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Hey Everyone! I know I’ve taken a break from writing but now I feel the urge to pull the pen out and jot somethings down. So stay tuned for my post. Please Comment, Share, and Subscribe.

I’ve titled this post”Life, The Good the Bad and the Ugly because simply that is just what life seems to give you on your journey. Everyday isn’t going to be full of sunshine and flowers. You will cry. You will bleed and you will move on. I realize one major thing about life. It is simply going to move with you or without. So why not stay in the game? Yes, you got fouled and maybe scraped an elbow, but did it kill you? Are your injuries until death?

The Bad & Ugly

I’ve realized that we must continue to move on in this thing called life. We can’t spend months of being mad over something that could have been solved with a phone call or text. Life isn’t promised. You never know when your time might be up. Yes… I get it they hurt our feelings and wronged us but guess what… That’s not going to be the last person that hurts our feelings. Here this… the reason why are feelings do get hurt is because we are all different. We don’t think the same or hurt the same. So it’s bound to happens o just let it go and keep moving on. You’re not alway going to win and get it on the first try but that doesn’t mean to not try again or to try something different.

The Good

Life is Precious and fragile so we should live on Purpose. Don’t waste time wasting time. Everyday you should learn something different. Experience something different. Life is full of surprises but if you’re boxed in to just one type of way of doing something or boxed in to just really not knowing anything further than your boundary then you have really dismissed yourself from the good of life. I myself started doing things different this year. I’ve started by picking new places to eat, trying different foods and even going to cities and places I’ve never been.

If you’re reading this we have all been given this gift of life and you can choose how big you want it to grow or how small. I encourage you to break the limits off of it and Live big. So don’t forget to laugh, live, love and Enjoy the Good Life!