Life: The Good the Bad the Ugly

Hey Everyone! I know I’ve taken a break from writing but now I feel the urge to pull the pen out and jot somethings down. So stay tuned for my post. Please Comment, Share, and Subscribe.

I’ve titled this post”Life, The Good the Bad and the Ugly because simply that is just what life seems to give you on your journey. Everyday isn’t going to be full of sunshine and flowers. You will cry. You will bleed and you will move on. I realize one major thing about life. It is simply going to move with you or without. So why not stay in the game? Yes, you got fouled and maybe scraped an elbow, but did it kill you? Are your injuries until death?

The Bad & Ugly

I’ve realized that we must continue to move on in this thing called life. We can’t spend months of being mad over something that could have been solved with a phone call or text. Life isn’t promised. You never know when your time might be up. Yes… I get it they hurt our feelings and wronged us but guess what… That’s not going to be the last person that hurts our feelings. Here this… the reason why are feelings do get hurt is because we are all different. We don’t think the same or hurt the same. So it’s bound to happens o just let it go and keep moving on. You’re not alway going to win and get it on the first try but that doesn’t mean to not try again or to try something different.

The Good

Life is Precious and fragile so we should live on Purpose. Don’t waste time wasting time. Everyday you should learn something different. Experience something different. Life is full of surprises but if you’re boxed in to just one type of way of doing something or boxed in to just really not knowing anything further than your boundary then you have really dismissed yourself from the good of life. I myself started doing things different this year. I’ve started by picking new places to eat, trying different foods and even going to cities and places I’ve never been.

If you’re reading this we have all been given this gift of life and you can choose how big you want it to grow or how small. I encourage you to break the limits off of it and Live big. So don’t forget to laugh, live, love and Enjoy the Good Life!




Hey Everyone… I know, I know it’s been a long time since I’ve written a blog but here I am. I am back!

I have 2 words that should wake you up.


Everyone was birth with a Destiny, a Gift, and a Purpose.

Everyone has their own lane and road that they must travel.

I know it’s super easy to look at someones life and want to be them. As a child we all had heroes and people we wanted to be. So we spend time investing and duplicating our lives to be like someone else not knowing that what we have inside us might be even greater than what were actually chasing.

I charge you to dig deep and discover your Passion. Discover what drives you and fuels you. The Bible says that your gift will make room for you. Some of us are working and pulling doubles to make ends meet, but what about your gift. What could happen if you worked your gift as much as you worked that 9 to 5?

Lastly, there are people in the earth depending on your voice, and gift for them to live. That’s why you matter. I used to be the one who always wanted to play the background and be in the back and didn’t care to get noticed but overtime I started working the gifts I was given and now people ask me… What do you think? What should we do next? How can we fix this? You never know who needs some inspiration or direction just from a few words that you can deliver to them. Again, I charge you to dig deep and grasp it because You Matter!

Only God can Judge me?🤦🏾‍♂️👀

Hello everyone, yes I’ve been under a rock when it comes to blogging but I have been jotting down many topics I’ve wanted to present. So here we go.

Over the years, I’ve seen people and even heard people use this phrase “only God can judge me” and quite as it’s kept are we really paying attention to what we are saying?

As a matter of fact God, will judge us there’s no doubt about it but he’s a sovereign God that created the heavens and the earth. He knows our thoughts before our mouth delivers it… must I say anymore?

When you look at the definition of judge in the context that we use it, it simply is people’s opinion of us. Were using it as a verb. We might have to bite the bullet on this one and gather some toughness because at the end of the day we do care to be judged.

If you are an entrepreneur you care about what your customers think and you want to know if you are indeed catering to their needs and you want to build a relationship so that can keep coming back to you.

When you wake up in the middle of the night and have a fresh idea for something. Many of us take it to a friend and ask our fave question… what do you think?

We may go a concert and someone may ask… how was the concert? Out of our mouth comes criticism and our opinion.

We post a Instagram picture of ourselves in our Sunday’s best and wait for the likes and hearts to come roll in. If it’s a nice pic. Nice outfit, or we just like you we will like it… SN we just judged you.

We sit in church, hear the worship team and hear the Pastor’s sermon. If something’s were off or you didn’t think the sermon was good lol we go share our opinions and criticism to our friends (I hope y’all don’t do that)

We are judging. Is it bad? No.

Our emotions play a huge part in criticism because we only like to hear the good stuff and not the stuff that we need to work on. (Bad stuff… negative comments) In fact those are things that would help us to do better but we’ve build this wall up of “only God can judge me”. When judgement time comes… you won’t have the advantage to reason or negotiate how you think something played out in your life. God will not be asking you for feedback to determine your destination lol

What needs to happen is balance. You can’t run from being judged or judging but we fail to understand that everything doesn’t need our mouth opinion (petty thoughts). If it’s not going to edify or build up someone then keep it silent. Continue to spot check your thoughts, sayings, and actions because at the end of the day you might find yourself saying… don’t judge me, or only God can judge me

I hope this shed light to some.

Notes about Love

Why does Love have to be so thick and fluffy? Love is like getting super glue on your fingertips. The quicker you try to clean it off, the quicker it dries and is stuck to you.

Why does Love make you fall? Love makes you break all of your rules and walls and turns you into a vulnerable tree branch that goes with the current of the wind.

Why does Love cause Fear? Love is like riding a roller coaster in the dark, not being able to see the direction of the ride or journey… the falls, the rises, the turns… all of those drops of your stomach and heart.

Why does Love hurt? Love is thick and you fall for the one that might not understand your deep emotions or understand why you’re stuck to them.

Why is Love ugly? Were all made different and have different love languages. Some verbally say it. Some physically display it. Most don’t understand each other’s language so tug of war begins, stretching, bending, and twisting each other until we see each other’s heart.    

Where is the Beauty in Love? Love is sticky, contagious, risky but beautiful. Hearing that special ringtone designated for that special one after a hard a long day brings excitement of life to our hearts. They want me! Just hearing their voice triggers and stimulates dopamine.

 Why does Love always win? The bible says it clear Love covers over a multitude on Sin. 1 Peter 4:8 If God has demonstrated to us this Great love then why can’t we forgive, move on, and continue to love?

A Quick Note about Love

I know it’s been a minute since I’ve written a blog, but today I’m feeling inspired and motivated to say something so here we go.

For the past three months my perspective on somethings have changed and are still changing. I read one day someone’s Facebook status about Jesus’ ministry on earth and how he always demonstrated love. I began to take inventory of this in my life. We often sing the song and say “I want to be like Jesus” we even wore bracelets and t-shirts that proclaimed What Would Jesus Do? Suddenly, it was just a fad of people wearing it and not knowing anything about it. In order to know “What would Jesus Do” you first have to understand what he did. 

Today I want to put the spotlight on Love. Everything Jesus did, he did in Love. I often question myself while handling situations. Is this love? Is cutting folks off, and not forgiving your brother and sister Love? We pray and ask God to forgive us all the time but and then when someone wrong us or call us out of our name, our entire day is messed up and were cutting them off. I am truly guilty of this and am a work in progress. 

All I’m saying is… watch how you treat people and in everything make sure that you are expressing and showing love. Make love an action word and do it by giving someone your time, your hear, your hands to finish a job, and if you feel the need to help someone monetary then do that too. 

A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. 35 By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”

John 13:34-35 


So today I started back running outside. (YAY) Last year I wanted to do some competitions like 5k and 10k and make my way up to half marathon, and possibly Marathon. I mean I may even do the Boston marathon but I let my laziness get in my way and I ended up quitting. I also wanted to find a running buddy or group but couldn’t but as I was running today I heard the words, “Game Over, Start Over”. As if this was my second time to try and get it right.I started to relate this to my life and begin to almost tear up. There’s been so many things that I have tried but gave up and at the end of the game, instead of starting over I just didn’t do it. I’m sure you can relate there’s somethings we’ve tried once and because it didn’t work, we didn’t even give it another try. I can remember playing video games as a child. There I would be stuck at this one level and would try and try again but each time I tried I would use a different approach to see if I could beat it. (You see where I’m going?)

The goal is to never give up. Yes, so you lost that one but one thing you did gain was the experience and for the next time you try, now you know what not to do. Those experiences and trials in our life help us grow stronger. Sometimes we do need to start over. Now that you know what the challenge is like, you know what to expect. So now you can start off stronger and even smarter. Sometimes the answer might just be right in our faces, but because were vexed on one approach of getting the job done, we blow it and (Game Over).

I want to encourage my brothers and sisters who will read this. Just because you lost this time doesn’t mean it’s over. Yes, this trial and segment of the game might read “Game Over” but I dare your “Start Over” and get back in the game!

My Piano Teacher

Welcome back and thank you so much for taking the time out to read my blog. I hope you be inspired by the small nuggets I write and declare. Stay tuned and remember always come back and check out my blog for Blog Wednesdays.

Some of you may know that I went to a performing arts high school. The school range from grades 6-12. So,  at about 9 years old I started fumbling around with a toy keyboard that I had gotten for Christmas. I would spend hours playing and carrying it around the house and pretty soon I was able to play back what I heard from the radio and TV. I was able to pluck out the melody. My parents caught on to this, and said “maybe there’s something here”. So next Christmas I got a 61 Keyboard and was able to play some of the songs the keyboard came with. After seeing my interest in piano, my parents decided to have me audition for the Emerson School Performing Arts school in Gary, IN as a piano major. I remember the audition like it was yesterday. I came to the school highly prepared with my boombox, because I was going to play along with the track.

I walked in, set down and the piano teacher begin asking me a few questions and then I sat at a baby grand piano for the first time in my life. She asked what I was going to play and I replied ” Donnie McClurkin’s We Fall Down”. So I pressed play on my boombox and begin to play it. At that time I thought I was doing some big stuff, but I only played the melody using both hands!!!! I didn’t know what the word melody was or octave or anything. After a few weeks I received a letter in the mail, saying congratulations I had been accepted and at that moment my musical journey began.
I want to introduce to some my piano teacher and friend Judith Neville. She was indeed the piano teacher at the audition who seen the gift inside me and took a chance on letting me into the school. I didn’t know how to read music, or understand any terminology going in, but I owe it to her for being an amazing Teacher. You always hear the term, teachers don’t make enough. I always took the saying literal because most teachers I seen had nice cars but it wasn’t about the money. Teachers are mothers, fathers, counselors, therapist, and so much more to the students that they teach.

I’ve said enough about me but I want to dedicate this blog to my teacher Mrs. Neville. She’s now moved into one of her dreams and now has her own piano studio in Valparaiso, IN.

I want you all to visit her site and if you are in the area and are looking to take lessons, this is the place to do them!

Clicking below will take you to her website.

Be Open

The past week I had conversations with many people and the same thing kept coming up. I would realize how someone was scared to break tradition or ritual in order to make something better or even to finish a task. How could we get caught up in keeping up with the way we’ve done something and not get stellar results or no results at all.

Don’t get me wrong, some traditions are good and can become customary such as family gatherings and such, but I’m talking about in everyday life. If you know the ending to your process doesn’t get you results then why keep doing it. It’s sort of like a parent teaching their child how to ride a bike and how to balance their weight and pedal. Some parents like mine, put training wheels on my bike, so I was able to ride without no worries… but the process hasn’t been complete, by tradition I know that when I rode my bike that I would be secured due to the training wheels. Taking the training wheels off would get me through the process and eventually I would learn to ride the bike without them.

Some of us stay at stage 1 in life and keep our training wheel on.

I shout it out today for you to Be Open. Open to receive and learn. Learning never stops at any age. We tend to put limits on ourselves about what were not going to do anymore because we felt like were just too old for that. So we box ourselves in and stay closed.

The precious gift that was given to us was life and one thing about life, it’s going to go on with you or without. Notice, every single day the human body changes and constantly adapt. Even if you decided not to come out the house for twenty four hours, your body still would shift, and change.

So why not be open and accept the moment and move Forward.

Ladies and Gentleman, I encourage you all to Be Open!

The Train Ride Back to Life 

Hey everyone… it’s been a long time since I posted! 

Honestly I didn’t have the urge to write and didn’t feel inspired. I always hear in my head my best friend telling me to write down everything because your story is going to help someone down the line.

Yesterday,  I took the train into the city for the first time since I was an adult. I am the type of person that loves to drive and would rather be in control of my commute and not have to wait on anyone or anybody and most definitely not wait for a Train.

While on the train I had the chance to relax and take in the scenery I also go to see other people from all walks of life and how some were suited and booted going to work and some were dressed casual as if they were just on for the ride. 

Even though I was needing the train for transportation for work, I was just on for the ride. I quickly became inspired with some ideas for business and writing. I was able to listen to myself inhale and exhale. 

Everything was calm and peaceful.

The revelation behind this train ride is simply this… Sometimes we need to give ourselves a break from wanting to be in control of everything. Some of us say, “God is in control” yet let him control what’s going on around us. Once we learn to let go then the world of living can come alive. When I drive into the city, sometimes I don’t even recognize that I’ve passed Lake Michigan. 

I hope this encourages you to remember to live in the moment. 

Holiday Time/Gift Time

   So a week ago I wrote a status on Facebook of how i felt about this Holiday Season. Yes, Christmas time we make it about gifts, gifts, and gifts. Stores stay open late and make up sales to get you spend money to buy those so called gifts. This year I’ve felt God tugging on my heart and I begin to take inventory on how blessed I am. When I did this, I told myself that I didn’t want anything but instead I want to be a blessing for someone who is need. There’s a lot of that “want” a lot of things. I could give you “Brandon’s top 10” list right now of things I want, but do I really “need” them? Most of our answers would be no. As we look in our community we see those that aren’t as fortunate and those who are struggling to make ends meet. So why not be a blessing to someone. From a biblical standpoint we see God gave us the ultimate gift and that was his son Jesus. There was in fact a “need”. 

So I would like to challenge everyone that reads this to help your sister or brother who is need and be a blessing to them.

Happy Holidays! 

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