Moving Pass the Feeling of Defeat

Happy Wednesday Fam! I pray that everyone is well and staying safe. I just wanted to share something that has been on my heart and that I deal with from time time. Yall see it already. “Feelings” yup we all have them us men included. Often times I find myself in my own thoughts of being overwhelm with so much to do, so many ideas, wanting to help this person and that. I often would just curl up and sit in the house and not do a thing. Now of course we should be in the house lol but I’m referring to not being productive and feeling sorry for myself. Seems like it’s so quick to slip in but it starts subtle and before you know it, you’ve spent 3 days in a funk and haven’t did anything and don’t even know why, but you feel defeated like you’ve lost and you don’t know why. If you can relate then I want to encourage you on today. This was just me on yesterday. I have 5 things that you can do to help you move along out of these bumps in the road.

1. Be ok with not knowing the end and not understanding the outcome

This one is one a huge for me. I’m an over thinker and often want to know and see the end before I even start it and if it’s cloudy or can’t be seen I will not start it or deal with it. I think it comes with being a perfectionist and not wanting to fail at the things that I do But we must be ok with not knowing the end. That is the beauty of life. You have to go through things to gain understanding and knowledge. Book knowledge and youtube vids are good resources but sometimes you have to actually go through it yourself so that you can experience it up close and personal. Here, you’ll learn things about yourself, you never knew and if you fail, you’ll learn what not to do and what works.

2. Talk it out

I have a hard time explaining myself to people and being vulnerable and letting folks in. Now be mindful, you don’t have to go around telling everybody your business but pray and ask God to place those people who will help build you and who can help you get through that you’re going through. God has blessed me with some amazing friends whom I’ve adopted as family. Yesterday, for example, I felt so defeated and I felt like I was completed stuck in neutral. I happen to be texting one of my good friends and was telling him about how I was feeling. He instantly encouraged me to keep pressing on. It was those simple words that I read that got me up and back at it. Sometimes it’s the smallest things that fire us up and motivate us to keep on pushing. So yes, talk it out, express yourself. Sometimes you just need to get it off your chest and off of you

3. Find your motivation! What is it that brings you joy or that takes your mind away from your current situation

So yesterday while I was feeling defeated and stuck. I simply jumped on the keys (my piano) and started to play. After 5 minutes I started to become overwhelmed with a feeling of Joy and Peace. I had played myself happy and restored myself back to life. After that I went to the gym and completed my day. It was like God had smiled on me and I had got back on track where I needed to be. I encourage you to find that thing that puts your mind at ease. If it’s reading a book or calling up a friend to talk. Just do it and keep moving on.

I hope this helps when you’re having those low moments Be blessed!

Why Do I Workout?

Happy Wednesday Everyone! I Pray you are all doing well. I wanted to share something that has been dear to me for quite sometime. You got it, Health! I’ll say it one more time for those who are just tuning in but I just turned 31 and I’ve really been ramping up things a bit in my life. I really want to be the best version of myself that I can be in this life time. During the pandemic I’ve heard and read a lot of people talking about self care and overall just taking care of yourself. When I turned 30 I feel like the check engine light came on. 30 told me that you’re getting a lil older and it will require you to do a bit more than what you were doing in your 20s. You know when you’re young that’s your excuse for everything. I’m young, this won’t bother me. Like skipping meals and breakfast. I’m young, I can go through out the day without eating like it’s an achievement only to find out you could be damaging your metabolism. So I want to share with you the “why” behind my workouts and what my goals are. I hope this inspires you to get up and move, so that you can live a healthy life.

I choose to workout because it helps relieve stress. This is actually scientifically proven that working out can help the body deal with stress. I always feel like Superman after a good workout. I feel like I can conquer anything that comes at me and it really gives me tunnel vision for whatever I’m focused on or for those things I have to get done, like writing this blog. Every workout isn’t the same and will not be the same. Your body will respond differently every single day. There’s days I want to just chill but those are the days I perform my best. I always think how would the successful people such as Bill Gates and Steve Jobs get anything completed if they only did everything based on feelings and how they felt for that time. In life we will have to do things we don’t want to do like lacing up those shoes and hitting the pavement but when I think about how I will feel after I’m done. The motivation sets in and pulls me in.

Lastly, I choose to workout because I’m always inspired by something. For my spiritual folks, the Lord really speaks to me in the shower and at the gym. Weird I know? I’ve been in the gym and zoned out creating an idea and would forget where I am or will forget that I’m on my 2nd mile. It’s spiritual for me. The constant assurance that God is in control and has all power gives me more strength to finish and go through my workout. I also feel as I’m working out thy I am staying ready for my destiny and purpose or even the door that God blesses me to go through. I would hate to not be ready due to being out of shape from not being a good steward over my body/temple. Let that marinate.

So that’s why I do it. I hope this gives you a push to get up and get out there. Don’t wait for the new month or Monday. Let your new month and Monday be today. Don’t put off what you can do today for tomorrow. I love you all, Be blessed.

Combatting Procrastination

Hey Fam! I just wanted to encourage you on this beautiful hump day. I always want to inspire and uplift someone in anyway that I can.

So I celebrated year 31 this past weekend as some of you may know who follow me. Since my 29th birthday I am always put into this of picking myself apart and wanting to know if I did enough or why am I in this place and such and then once my birthday pass some of that anxiety leaves. Why? I don’t know. Maybe because the new age has set in or something.

One of my goals for this new chapter is getting things done in a timely fashion. My birthday was on Friday and I already started this on Saturday. When I tell you that I am the king of Procrastination, I have the t- shirt, and next to the definition in the dictionary you will see my name and link to my facebook! I am so serious. I even remember being in college and waiting the last minute to type a paper even when the paper was assigned a month ahead of time. I would sometimes even get up hours before it was due to complete it. I even carried this to driving. I would leave out just in time to get where I was going so that I could speed smh.

So something started to happen when I turned 30. I’m not sure if a light bulb came on or something, but I became overwhelmed and stressed out with rushing to get something done at the last minute. Why not get it done now and out the way? Why put more on me than I can handle. I went back to the source and found out that it was in my time management. I even heard a preacher preaching on Procrastination and how it could be a form of Pride to God. When I heard this I was stunned. Basically he stated that you say that you can do something later, you are indeed saying that you have some type of God sovereign knowledge of all things and time. You are assuming time on God’s time and not being God. Listen it’s Subtle but we do it. As we see how precious but fast life can go. We don’t know how much time we have on this earth or with our love ones. When you think about calling that friend or texting your cousin, DO IT. He also said the only moment you know that you have is the moment that you have at this present moment. When I heard this perspective I was a little torn and immediately repented because I was thinking that this is just me and this is the way I operate and that it is ok.

So I walked away with this perspective and it’s being doing me well. Now I’m not going to front and say that I get everything done when I want it but I have gotten a lot better with getting the things I need to do in a timely fashion. I want to share 3 things that has helped me get through procrastination and it could possibly help you too

1. Use a calendar and create a to do list

If you haven’t done this then you are in for a treat. There is so much gratification for checking off your list of things that you have to do. I would make a list of things to do a night for the next day and would start early on them. So get you a notebook and start getting stuff done.

2. Kill off distractions and stay focus

Sometimes you need to put the phone down and log off of social media. I currently have a timer for my phone and IPad for facebook. It will only allow me to use facebook for 1 hour a day. Which is not hard to do lol. You start watching someone’s live and another vid, like heart that, and boom you’ve spent 3 hrs on fb. So dial it back. Map out and see where you are spending the most time. If it’s Netflix, or tv then dial it back so that you can get what you need done. With less distractions you will be able to stay focus.

3. Reward yourself for small victories

The greater reward that I find in getting things done is the fact that you don’t have to have anything on your plate or mind. Of course we are always thinking and moving but if you get done what you need to do in a timely fashion without rushing, you will have more time to do something enjoyable that you like to do. Reward yourself. I would often reward myself at the end of the week if I got everything done by a getting a slice of cheese cake. Binge watching a new show on The Weeknd because I had a good week of getting things done. Kinda like how our parents did us a kids. If you get all A’s on your report card you’ll get a new video game, but first you got to do the work. Make up your own plan and stick to it. Before you know it you’ll be kicking procrastination in the rear. You got this, go do it!

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