Moving Pass the Feeling of Defeat

Happy Wednesday Fam! I pray that everyone is well and staying safe. I just wanted to share something that has been on my heart and that I deal with from time time. Yall see it already. “Feelings” yup we all have them us men included. Often times I find myself in my own thoughts of being overwhelm with so much to do, so many ideas, wanting to help this person and that. I often would just curl up and sit in the house and not do a thing. Now of course we should be in the house lol but I’m referring to not being productive and feeling sorry for myself. Seems like it’s so quick to slip in but it starts subtle and before you know it, you’ve spent 3 days in a funk and haven’t did anything and don’t even know why, but you feel defeated like you’ve lost and you don’t know why. If you can relate then I want to encourage you on today. This was just me on yesterday. I have 5 things that you can do to help you move along out of these bumps in the road.

1. Be ok with not knowing the end and not understanding the outcome

This one is one a huge for me. I’m an over thinker and often want to know and see the end before I even start it and if it’s cloudy or can’t be seen I will not start it or deal with it. I think it comes with being a perfectionist and not wanting to fail at the things that I do But we must be ok with not knowing the end. That is the beauty of life. You have to go through things to gain understanding and knowledge. Book knowledge and youtube vids are good resources but sometimes you have to actually go through it yourself so that you can experience it up close and personal. Here, you’ll learn things about yourself, you never knew and if you fail, you’ll learn what not to do and what works.

2. Talk it out

I have a hard time explaining myself to people and being vulnerable and letting folks in. Now be mindful, you don’t have to go around telling everybody your business but pray and ask God to place those people who will help build you and who can help you get through that you’re going through. God has blessed me with some amazing friends whom I’ve adopted as family. Yesterday, for example, I felt so defeated and I felt like I was completed stuck in neutral. I happen to be texting one of my good friends and was telling him about how I was feeling. He instantly encouraged me to keep pressing on. It was those simple words that I read that got me up and back at it. Sometimes it’s the smallest things that fire us up and motivate us to keep on pushing. So yes, talk it out, express yourself. Sometimes you just need to get it off your chest and off of you

3. Find your motivation! What is it that brings you joy or that takes your mind away from your current situation

So yesterday while I was feeling defeated and stuck. I simply jumped on the keys (my piano) and started to play. After 5 minutes I started to become overwhelmed with a feeling of Joy and Peace. I had played myself happy and restored myself back to life. After that I went to the gym and completed my day. It was like God had smiled on me and I had got back on track where I needed to be. I encourage you to find that thing that puts your mind at ease. If it’s reading a book or calling up a friend to talk. Just do it and keep moving on.

I hope this helps when you’re having those low moments Be blessed!

Why Do I Workout?

Happy Wednesday Everyone! I Pray you are all doing well. I wanted to share something that has been dear to me for quite sometime. You got it, Health! I’ll say it one more time for those who are just tuning in but I just turned 31 and I’ve really been ramping up things a bit in my life. I really want to be the best version of myself that I can be in this life time. During the pandemic I’ve heard and read a lot of people talking about self care and overall just taking care of yourself. When I turned 30 I feel like the check engine light came on. 30 told me that you’re getting a lil older and it will require you to do a bit more than what you were doing in your 20s. You know when you’re young that’s your excuse for everything. I’m young, this won’t bother me. Like skipping meals and breakfast. I’m young, I can go through out the day without eating like it’s an achievement only to find out you could be damaging your metabolism. So I want to share with you the “why” behind my workouts and what my goals are. I hope this inspires you to get up and move, so that you can live a healthy life.

I choose to workout because it helps relieve stress. This is actually scientifically proven that working out can help the body deal with stress. I always feel like Superman after a good workout. I feel like I can conquer anything that comes at me and it really gives me tunnel vision for whatever I’m focused on or for those things I have to get done, like writing this blog. Every workout isn’t the same and will not be the same. Your body will respond differently every single day. There’s days I want to just chill but those are the days I perform my best. I always think how would the successful people such as Bill Gates and Steve Jobs get anything completed if they only did everything based on feelings and how they felt for that time. In life we will have to do things we don’t want to do like lacing up those shoes and hitting the pavement but when I think about how I will feel after I’m done. The motivation sets in and pulls me in.

Lastly, I choose to workout because I’m always inspired by something. For my spiritual folks, the Lord really speaks to me in the shower and at the gym. Weird I know? I’ve been in the gym and zoned out creating an idea and would forget where I am or will forget that I’m on my 2nd mile. It’s spiritual for me. The constant assurance that God is in control and has all power gives me more strength to finish and go through my workout. I also feel as I’m working out thy I am staying ready for my destiny and purpose or even the door that God blesses me to go through. I would hate to not be ready due to being out of shape from not being a good steward over my body/temple. Let that marinate.

So that’s why I do it. I hope this gives you a push to get up and get out there. Don’t wait for the new month or Monday. Let your new month and Monday be today. Don’t put off what you can do today for tomorrow. I love you all, Be blessed.

Combatting Procrastination

Hey Fam! I just wanted to encourage you on this beautiful hump day. I always want to inspire and uplift someone in anyway that I can.

So I celebrated year 31 this past weekend as some of you may know who follow me. Since my 29th birthday I am always put into this of picking myself apart and wanting to know if I did enough or why am I in this place and such and then once my birthday pass some of that anxiety leaves. Why? I don’t know. Maybe because the new age has set in or something.

One of my goals for this new chapter is getting things done in a timely fashion. My birthday was on Friday and I already started this on Saturday. When I tell you that I am the king of Procrastination, I have the t- shirt, and next to the definition in the dictionary you will see my name and link to my facebook! I am so serious. I even remember being in college and waiting the last minute to type a paper even when the paper was assigned a month ahead of time. I would sometimes even get up hours before it was due to complete it. I even carried this to driving. I would leave out just in time to get where I was going so that I could speed smh.

So something started to happen when I turned 30. I’m not sure if a light bulb came on or something, but I became overwhelmed and stressed out with rushing to get something done at the last minute. Why not get it done now and out the way? Why put more on me than I can handle. I went back to the source and found out that it was in my time management. I even heard a preacher preaching on Procrastination and how it could be a form of Pride to God. When I heard this I was stunned. Basically he stated that you say that you can do something later, you are indeed saying that you have some type of God sovereign knowledge of all things and time. You are assuming time on God’s time and not being God. Listen it’s Subtle but we do it. As we see how precious but fast life can go. We don’t know how much time we have on this earth or with our love ones. When you think about calling that friend or texting your cousin, DO IT. He also said the only moment you know that you have is the moment that you have at this present moment. When I heard this perspective I was a little torn and immediately repented because I was thinking that this is just me and this is the way I operate and that it is ok.

So I walked away with this perspective and it’s being doing me well. Now I’m not going to front and say that I get everything done when I want it but I have gotten a lot better with getting the things I need to do in a timely fashion. I want to share 3 things that has helped me get through procrastination and it could possibly help you too

1. Use a calendar and create a to do list

If you haven’t done this then you are in for a treat. There is so much gratification for checking off your list of things that you have to do. I would make a list of things to do a night for the next day and would start early on them. So get you a notebook and start getting stuff done.

2. Kill off distractions and stay focus

Sometimes you need to put the phone down and log off of social media. I currently have a timer for my phone and IPad for facebook. It will only allow me to use facebook for 1 hour a day. Which is not hard to do lol. You start watching someone’s live and another vid, like heart that, and boom you’ve spent 3 hrs on fb. So dial it back. Map out and see where you are spending the most time. If it’s Netflix, or tv then dial it back so that you can get what you need done. With less distractions you will be able to stay focus.

3. Reward yourself for small victories

The greater reward that I find in getting things done is the fact that you don’t have to have anything on your plate or mind. Of course we are always thinking and moving but if you get done what you need to do in a timely fashion without rushing, you will have more time to do something enjoyable that you like to do. Reward yourself. I would often reward myself at the end of the week if I got everything done by a getting a slice of cheese cake. Binge watching a new show on The Weeknd because I had a good week of getting things done. Kinda like how our parents did us a kids. If you get all A’s on your report card you’ll get a new video game, but first you got to do the work. Make up your own plan and stick to it. Before you know it you’ll be kicking procrastination in the rear. You got this, go do it!

3 Things you Can do to Keep the Faith through a Pandemic 💪🏾✊🏾

Good Morning Family! I pray that everyone is doing well and making it through. I Just wanted to share some Encouragement today for someone that might need some and also may need to read some fresh perspective.

I was given the task to preach a sermon a couple of months, and God downloaded a word in my spirit and the basis of the word was “perspective”. I’ve talked about this briefly. This word has really carried me through since March until now. There’s been so much going on in our world, from pandemic (Covid), killings, riots, and racial tension. Honestly, if I could be honest, I became overwhelmed and checked out a few times to get myself together. I am a man of Faith and know that there is power in prayer, and that God is a all knowing as well. He is not surprised by anything. I often picture God, sitting in his nice comfy chair watching his masterpiece movie play out, while he’s holding the stars in place inhaling and exhaling. Ya’ll let me have my Disney moment!!! But, he’s all knowing, and always present. So when you take it from this perspective you must question why am I still here? I’m alive and that means there is need for me here. If your work was finished I honestly believe that we wouldn’t be here. We all were created for a purpose and it is up to us to find that purpose on our journey called life. Now hold that thought.

I’ve titled this post “Keeping the Faith” because when storms and trials of life come, the first thing we do is lose faith on those things we are believing for or working towards, but I want to declare to you to shift your perspective. It is not over and there is still time to go back to the drawing board. I’ve seen so many people use this time wisely and shift. They shifted from doing things the so called normal way from in person meetings to making things virtual and not missing a beat. Our churches for example. I’ve seen a lot of churches get on board with their online presence and take advantage of technology the best way they could and I’ve seen some do the bare minimum because they just think it was that important and they just wanted to decide to wait until it’s Safe to go back inside the 4 walls of a building as if God didn’t know that a Pandemic would occur. I’m always reminded of the scripture that says “he who win souls is wise”. Proverbs 11:30 and with the help of technology, WiFi, and cameras The service and ministry never had to stop unless we want it too. This may have called for us to stop doing things the same old way and develop new ways of doing ministry. We must SHIFT. Shifting perspective gives you a different a view of the situation. Shifting perspective will help you keep the faith during a Pandemic. If you are only bound by what you see in front of you and are constantly magnifying what you hear from the news and your peers, You won’t get the chance to utilize faith to go against the grain. This is the most valuable time for the church. The world is seeking healing, deliverance, and salvation and if we can’t shift and bring Faith to them because were not willing to shift, then are we really spreading Faith and Hope to a dying world?

So I challenge you to shift and realign your Faith. No, I this isn’t the correct formula but I do know that God has a purpose and plan for us and if we would just have faith to follow and endure We will get through this. I want to encourage with 3 nuggets on how you can keep the Faith during these times.

1. Check your Circle and keep like minded people in your circle who want the same thing as you.

  • Get rid of the negative conversations and complainers. Yes, we all know what is going on but if we want to shift and rise above it. We must start having the conversations about solutions. If these conversations can’t be made within your circle then it might be time to shift your circle.

2. Stay prayerful and connected to people of Faith “Church”

  • We must stay built up by keeping the full armor of salvation on at all times. Do it when you don’t want to. Stay in the presence of God. It will keep you and it will keep your mind focused. Start your day with devotion (prayer and scripture) and watch how much better your day unfolds.

3. Make time for reflection and Gratitude

  • Take inventory of your many blessings and things you have to be grateful for. We often take the little things for granted. Your little thing is someone’s big thing. Be Grateful. Take time and jot down a list of things that you are grateful for. Putting these things before you will help you continue on your journey of keeping the Faith.

I pray that you all be safe and Blessed

I Don’t Have a Lot🙂 Here’s Some Quick Encouragement

Hello Family, I am BACK. I pray this finds you well and blessed. It’s been a while since I’ve written anything but I want to get back to a place of writing and speak what’s on my heart, and the only thing I have right now is a piece of encouragement.

Despite what’s going on in the world, I want to spread some joy and to remind us all to sit back and to open our hearts for gratitude. Everyday we wake up and breathe and exhale is a blessing. We are indeed a blessed people. I simply want to share these few words, Be Strong, you are more than enough and capable to get through this. Whether it’s financially, health related or struggling to find where you fit in, please be reminded that you are enough. God has equipped you with everything you need. Take time to sit back and tap into your God given gifts and talents. You may convey the gift of servitude and the gift of helps. Especially in this time we all need a helping hand whether it’s physically or just an ear.

I am praying for you and with you, I love you!

Life: The Good the Bad the Ugly

Hey Everyone! I know I’ve taken a break from writing but now I feel the urge to pull the pen out and jot somethings down. So stay tuned for my post. Please Comment, Share, and Subscribe.

I’ve titled this post”Life, The Good the Bad and the Ugly because simply that is just what life seems to give you on your journey. Everyday isn’t going to be full of sunshine and flowers. You will cry. You will bleed and you will move on. I realize one major thing about life. It is simply going to move with you or without. So why not stay in the game? Yes, you got fouled and maybe scraped an elbow, but did it kill you? Are your injuries until death?

The Bad & Ugly

I’ve realized that we must continue to move on in this thing called life. We can’t spend months of being mad over something that could have been solved with a phone call or text. Life isn’t promised. You never know when your time might be up. Yes… I get it they hurt our feelings and wronged us but guess what… That’s not going to be the last person that hurts our feelings. Here this… the reason why are feelings do get hurt is because we are all different. We don’t think the same or hurt the same. So it’s bound to happens o just let it go and keep moving on. You’re not alway going to win and get it on the first try but that doesn’t mean to not try again or to try something different.

The Good

Life is Precious and fragile so we should live on Purpose. Don’t waste time wasting time. Everyday you should learn something different. Experience something different. Life is full of surprises but if you’re boxed in to just one type of way of doing something or boxed in to just really not knowing anything further than your boundary then you have really dismissed yourself from the good of life. I myself started doing things different this year. I’ve started by picking new places to eat, trying different foods and even going to cities and places I’ve never been.

If you’re reading this we have all been given this gift of life and you can choose how big you want it to grow or how small. I encourage you to break the limits off of it and Live big. So don’t forget to laugh, live, love and Enjoy the Good Life!



Will you Connect the Dots?

I’ve been puzzled on this thought for some time and now I’m just going to lay it out on paper and let you hear my insight.

I’ve always been the kind of person that stuck to a certain method or wasn’t really open to trying something new. Kind of like the 5 year old who says no to eating broccoli or any green vegetable. They don’t know the importance of it, but all they know is that it doesn’t taste sweet like a snack. So they rule out everything associated in that category and call it nasty. Even as adults we are the same way. Where does this come from? I’m glad you ask me. Most of it is a sense of “fear”. If you’ve never went golfing but say that you don’t like to do it, How would you ever know that you don’t like it? If you’ve never been to a concert but you say you don’t like crowds and think they’re overrated, how would you really know that you don’t like Concerts?

We must begin to connect the dots in our Life. Connecting the dot means living through and going through it. We have to remember to enjoy life to the fullest. Don’t be afraid to try it even if you have negative thoughts about it, you might even learn to like it, once you’re in the moment of it.

If we don’t connect the Dots, we will become dull, boring, and dried up LOL

No honestly, there’s so much more to life than what we think. If we could see pass our down falls and the things that we are going through and actually find some type of Joy around it, then we could discover and continue to learn about ourselves and the world around us.

A couple of weeks ago, I decided to go for a bike ride. I usually go with a friend but they were unavailable. So going on this bike ride for me was a test. I wanted to take the trail by my house, so I did just that. While on the trail, I looked to my left, and seen this body of water out of no where. So I slowed down and turned around. I found an opening and walked my bike through. There it was, I was only 5 mins. away from my house and discovered this piece of land and water. It was a park, but just not any park. It was breath taking and quiet! I’ve never looked at nature (God’s creation) in a peaceful way like this. There was even a bench in front of the lake. So i set down and listened to what was around me. It was so refreshing. if I had I never got up the courage up to ride my bike alone, this moment would have never happened. So will you connect the dots given to you?


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