Moving Pass the Feeling of Defeat

Happy Wednesday Fam! I pray that everyone is well and staying safe. I just wanted to share something that has been on my heart and that I deal with from time time. Yall see it already. “Feelings” yup we all have them us men included. Often times I find myself in my own thoughts of being overwhelm with so much to do, so many ideas, wanting to help this person and that. I often would just curl up and sit in the house and not do a thing. Now of course we should be in the house lol but I’m referring to not being productive and feeling sorry for myself. Seems like it’s so quick to slip in but it starts subtle and before you know it, you’ve spent 3 days in a funk and haven’t did anything and don’t even know why, but you feel defeated like you’ve lost and you don’t know why. If you can relate then I want to encourage you on today. This was just me on yesterday. I have 5 things that you can do to help you move along out of these bumps in the road.

1. Be ok with not knowing the end and not understanding the outcome

This one is one a huge for me. I’m an over thinker and often want to know and see the end before I even start it and if it’s cloudy or can’t be seen I will not start it or deal with it. I think it comes with being a perfectionist and not wanting to fail at the things that I do But we must be ok with not knowing the end. That is the beauty of life. You have to go through things to gain understanding and knowledge. Book knowledge and youtube vids are good resources but sometimes you have to actually go through it yourself so that you can experience it up close and personal. Here, you’ll learn things about yourself, you never knew and if you fail, you’ll learn what not to do and what works.

2. Talk it out

I have a hard time explaining myself to people and being vulnerable and letting folks in. Now be mindful, you don’t have to go around telling everybody your business but pray and ask God to place those people who will help build you and who can help you get through that you’re going through. God has blessed me with some amazing friends whom I’ve adopted as family. Yesterday, for example, I felt so defeated and I felt like I was completed stuck in neutral. I happen to be texting one of my good friends and was telling him about how I was feeling. He instantly encouraged me to keep pressing on. It was those simple words that I read that got me up and back at it. Sometimes it’s the smallest things that fire us up and motivate us to keep on pushing. So yes, talk it out, express yourself. Sometimes you just need to get it off your chest and off of you

3. Find your motivation! What is it that brings you joy or that takes your mind away from your current situation

So yesterday while I was feeling defeated and stuck. I simply jumped on the keys (my piano) and started to play. After 5 minutes I started to become overwhelmed with a feeling of Joy and Peace. I had played myself happy and restored myself back to life. After that I went to the gym and completed my day. It was like God had smiled on me and I had got back on track where I needed to be. I encourage you to find that thing that puts your mind at ease. If it’s reading a book or calling up a friend to talk. Just do it and keep moving on.

I hope this helps when you’re having those low moments Be blessed!

Why We Must Stay a Student

Hey Family! I hope that all is well with you and that we are plowing through our week and achieving our goals and getting closer to our dreams.

I wanted to share with you this quick tidbit. I wrote this message in my phone a couple of weeks ago and it stuck with me. You might ask, what is he talking about from the title. We often take being a student being associated with being in school or college but I want to dive deeper and take it to our everyday lives. With the world constantly changing by the day, it is very important that we keep our eyes and ears open to knowing what’s changed and what is changing and what’s next to come. I could remember like it was yesterday. Picture it, turning on the computer and waiting for that connection to go thru via Dial up, and waiting to hear those three words, “You’ve Got mail”. Crazy right! Do you remember? Having to lose out on talking on the phone because you were wanting to go online to play your favorite game or to look something up. Now of course, our internet has changed for the better and we are instantly and sometimes always connected now because we have designated lines and signals just for internet. So why must we stay a student? I have 3 Reasons why we must stay a student. I’ll keep it short and simple for you. Let’s go

1. We must stay a student because Technology changes and will change

I remember back in the day you had to actual go to the place to pay your bill or call in and pay your bill. Now that is becoming more and more obsolete. Bill pay online has become the new norm. Even having an email address is not optional. You cannot operate a smartphone in 2020 without having an email address. With that be said… we must make it our business to be open to learn this new technology so that we don’t get left behind. So every so often you should sit down and listen to a tech reviewer on youtube or open up a book to learn the latest trends in tech so that you don’t get left behind. I remember when you booked a hotel you were given the room that the hotel assigned for you, but now you have the choice of actually picking out your room, and now you even have the option to use your phone as the 🔑 to get in. Stay a student and keep learning all that you can .

2. We must stay a student because you don’t know everything

Say it with me, “I don’t know everything”. I believe that’s the reason why God made so many cultures and different races of people so that we wouldn’t look stale or outdated or just regular. If I only know what it is to come from a African American background then I would never be able to relate to anyone else. Learning and studying culture helps us connect with other people. Not only that we can share our food, our struggles, our victories. It’s a blessing to be able to learn from a different culture. I know we all love Mexican food, me personally am a fan of Italian. The best way to learn how to make these foods and to keep them authentic is by studying the culture and their methods. Study= Student.

3. We must stay a student because there is always something to learn

Have you ever went to youtube and started watching something and another related video comes up and before you know it another comes up and all of sudden you find yourself watching 5 videos when you only wanting 1. It happens to me all the time. I’ve watched locomotive videos, car repair videos, and all sorts of content. What I discovered is that there is always something out there to learn and pick up. I feel that we count ourselves short when we just stick to what we know and never get outside of our box to see how far we could go. Don’t get caught up in the usual or the easy comfortable routine of this is me. Try something new every once in a while. By nature we are creatures of habit and I guarantee if you decide to make a habit of learning something you didn’t know, then you would be on your way to Staying Student!

3 Things you Can do to Keep the Faith through a Pandemic 💪🏾✊🏾

Good Morning Family! I pray that everyone is doing well and making it through. I Just wanted to share some Encouragement today for someone that might need some and also may need to read some fresh perspective.

I was given the task to preach a sermon a couple of months, and God downloaded a word in my spirit and the basis of the word was “perspective”. I’ve talked about this briefly. This word has really carried me through since March until now. There’s been so much going on in our world, from pandemic (Covid), killings, riots, and racial tension. Honestly, if I could be honest, I became overwhelmed and checked out a few times to get myself together. I am a man of Faith and know that there is power in prayer, and that God is a all knowing as well. He is not surprised by anything. I often picture God, sitting in his nice comfy chair watching his masterpiece movie play out, while he’s holding the stars in place inhaling and exhaling. Ya’ll let me have my Disney moment!!! But, he’s all knowing, and always present. So when you take it from this perspective you must question why am I still here? I’m alive and that means there is need for me here. If your work was finished I honestly believe that we wouldn’t be here. We all were created for a purpose and it is up to us to find that purpose on our journey called life. Now hold that thought.

I’ve titled this post “Keeping the Faith” because when storms and trials of life come, the first thing we do is lose faith on those things we are believing for or working towards, but I want to declare to you to shift your perspective. It is not over and there is still time to go back to the drawing board. I’ve seen so many people use this time wisely and shift. They shifted from doing things the so called normal way from in person meetings to making things virtual and not missing a beat. Our churches for example. I’ve seen a lot of churches get on board with their online presence and take advantage of technology the best way they could and I’ve seen some do the bare minimum because they just think it was that important and they just wanted to decide to wait until it’s Safe to go back inside the 4 walls of a building as if God didn’t know that a Pandemic would occur. I’m always reminded of the scripture that says “he who win souls is wise”. Proverbs 11:30 and with the help of technology, WiFi, and cameras The service and ministry never had to stop unless we want it too. This may have called for us to stop doing things the same old way and develop new ways of doing ministry. We must SHIFT. Shifting perspective gives you a different a view of the situation. Shifting perspective will help you keep the faith during a Pandemic. If you are only bound by what you see in front of you and are constantly magnifying what you hear from the news and your peers, You won’t get the chance to utilize faith to go against the grain. This is the most valuable time for the church. The world is seeking healing, deliverance, and salvation and if we can’t shift and bring Faith to them because were not willing to shift, then are we really spreading Faith and Hope to a dying world?

So I challenge you to shift and realign your Faith. No, I this isn’t the correct formula but I do know that God has a purpose and plan for us and if we would just have faith to follow and endure We will get through this. I want to encourage with 3 nuggets on how you can keep the Faith during these times.

1. Check your Circle and keep like minded people in your circle who want the same thing as you.

  • Get rid of the negative conversations and complainers. Yes, we all know what is going on but if we want to shift and rise above it. We must start having the conversations about solutions. If these conversations can’t be made within your circle then it might be time to shift your circle.

2. Stay prayerful and connected to people of Faith “Church”

  • We must stay built up by keeping the full armor of salvation on at all times. Do it when you don’t want to. Stay in the presence of God. It will keep you and it will keep your mind focused. Start your day with devotion (prayer and scripture) and watch how much better your day unfolds.

3. Make time for reflection and Gratitude

  • Take inventory of your many blessings and things you have to be grateful for. We often take the little things for granted. Your little thing is someone’s big thing. Be Grateful. Take time and jot down a list of things that you are grateful for. Putting these things before you will help you continue on your journey of keeping the Faith.

I pray that you all be safe and Blessed

I Don’t Have a Lot🙂 Here’s Some Quick Encouragement

Hello Family, I am BACK. I pray this finds you well and blessed. It’s been a while since I’ve written anything but I want to get back to a place of writing and speak what’s on my heart, and the only thing I have right now is a piece of encouragement.

Despite what’s going on in the world, I want to spread some joy and to remind us all to sit back and to open our hearts for gratitude. Everyday we wake up and breathe and exhale is a blessing. We are indeed a blessed people. I simply want to share these few words, Be Strong, you are more than enough and capable to get through this. Whether it’s financially, health related or struggling to find where you fit in, please be reminded that you are enough. God has equipped you with everything you need. Take time to sit back and tap into your God given gifts and talents. You may convey the gift of servitude and the gift of helps. Especially in this time we all need a helping hand whether it’s physically or just an ear.

I am praying for you and with you, I love you!

Will you Connect the Dots?

I’ve been puzzled on this thought for some time and now I’m just going to lay it out on paper and let you hear my insight.

I’ve always been the kind of person that stuck to a certain method or wasn’t really open to trying something new. Kind of like the 5 year old who says no to eating broccoli or any green vegetable. They don’t know the importance of it, but all they know is that it doesn’t taste sweet like a snack. So they rule out everything associated in that category and call it nasty. Even as adults we are the same way. Where does this come from? I’m glad you ask me. Most of it is a sense of “fear”. If you’ve never went golfing but say that you don’t like to do it, How would you ever know that you don’t like it? If you’ve never been to a concert but you say you don’t like crowds and think they’re overrated, how would you really know that you don’t like Concerts?

We must begin to connect the dots in our Life. Connecting the dot means living through and going through it. We have to remember to enjoy life to the fullest. Don’t be afraid to try it even if you have negative thoughts about it, you might even learn to like it, once you’re in the moment of it.

If we don’t connect the Dots, we will become dull, boring, and dried up LOL

No honestly, there’s so much more to life than what we think. If we could see pass our down falls and the things that we are going through and actually find some type of Joy around it, then we could discover and continue to learn about ourselves and the world around us.

A couple of weeks ago, I decided to go for a bike ride. I usually go with a friend but they were unavailable. So going on this bike ride for me was a test. I wanted to take the trail by my house, so I did just that. While on the trail, I looked to my left, and seen this body of water out of no where. So I slowed down and turned around. I found an opening and walked my bike through. There it was, I was only 5 mins. away from my house and discovered this piece of land and water. It was a park, but just not any park. It was breath taking and quiet! I’ve never looked at nature (God’s creation) in a peaceful way like this. There was even a bench in front of the lake. So i set down and listened to what was around me. It was so refreshing. if I had I never got up the courage up to ride my bike alone, this moment would have never happened. So will you connect the dots given to you?

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Embrace Opportunities

I can’t believe that we are in the 5 month of 2016 already. It seems like Christmas was yesterday. Even the seasons are moving fast. Over the past few months I’ve been faced with many opportunities. Some of the opportunities were well viewed. I mean you were able to see the pros and cons of the opportunities and then some of them you had to dig  a little deeper or as I said in some blogs ago “Take a chance”. No matter the walk of life we chose, we will always be faced with opportunity which lead us to making the decision of saying “yay” or Nay”. As always when I want to gain more clarity on topics, I take a look at their meaning.

Webster’s Dictionary defines Opportunity as a favorable juncture of circumstances, “the halt provided an opportunity for rest and refreshment” or a good chance for advancement or progress. So many times I’ve encountered opportunities and didn’t understand the outcome so I made my decision based on my knowledge and experience of the present moment. What I’ve come to realize when accepting and opportunities, it is simply what you make of it. Of course some of us probably can relate to having a opportunity come up and it sounded good at surface, and was promising.  I remember working with a company about 5 years ago, they presented me with an opportunity to advance and it did come with more responsibility. So I buckled down and went above and beyond the call of duty to show that I was more than capable of handling more responsibilities. Months and months past and I seriously got tired of the false hope that was given from my boss, so I resigned. So for a while I had become weary of hearing the excitement of opportunities and just saying no thanks because of the world we live in today we say “I want it Now”.

Nowadays, I’ve been able to let myself go and make the decision of taking every opportunity that comes to me. I’ve learned that every thing you do or want to acquire is going to require some work and effort. You may get it handed to you but in order to keep it and maintain it, you’re going to have to put some elbow into it. You never know what creativity or gift you will tap into just by stepping out and learning something new. Don’t let the opportunity make you, You make the opportunity!

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